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Written by Natasha Cornall | It can often feel like the end of the world if you’ve just come out of a messy breakup, or are the last singleton in your circle of friends. You may feel pressured to find Mr. (or Mrs.) Right — and quick. This all seems rather strange when we take into account the fact that most relationships eventually break up, many marriages end in divorce, and our coupled-up friends may find certain aspects of the single life enviable. So here’s how you can embrace the single life:
1. Don’t actively seek a relationship.
At this time, actively seeking a relationship may feel forced and awkward. So, don’t force yourself! Potential partners will spot this deliberateness and be put off by it. Instead of going on the hunt for love, learn to love yourself. If you can’t enjoy spending time with yourself, how will anyone else?
2. Indulge yourself.
Just because you’re not in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t go to the movies or a fancy restaurant. You shouldn’t deliberately avoid going out and enjoying yourself just because you’re single. The only person who suffers there is you! You also shouldn’t stop pampering yourself just because you don’t have a special someone to impress either. Go ahead, get your nails done, switch up your hair, and book in at the day spa — you deserve it.
3. Become the best you.
The best thing about being single is all the freedom, time, and money you now have to do the things you really want. So take a class, join the gym, volunteer, go travelling; you can now do all those things you’ve always wanted to. By working on yourself and allowing yourself to be a little selfish, you’ll become more fulfilled and optimistic about life, which will attract more people to you.
4. Don’t envy couples.
The grass always seems greener on the other side, but real couples are… real. They aren’t the lovey-dovey picture of perfection that Hollywood often paints. Your coupled-up friends experience ups and downs too. Sometimes they fight and get annoyed with one another. You probably don’t notice because they do it behind closed doors, and you only see them together when they’re happy. Not everything about a relationship is peachy perfect, and there is plenty they’ll envy about your life.
5. Be grateful for what you have.
Being single isn’t the worst possible thing that could happen to you. There are millions of people out there who are sick, homeless, stuck in poverty, or fleeing from war. Try spending a few minutes every morning or evening to concentrate on the things in your life that you are grateful for. There’s nobody better to make you happy than you.